Putting “I” Back Into Your Vocabulary
Considering the amount of people who seem to do nothing but talk about themselves on their blog, Facebook or Twitter accounts, you may think I’m crazy for suggesting that we don’t have enough “I” in our lives.
But hear me out.
How many times have you heard people bitch about the anonymous “they” that should have taken care of some problem. Why haven’t “they” shoveled the sidewalk? Why didn’t “they” help that poor person? How are “they” going to protect me from the other “they.”
We’ve been trained to be that way, of course. And our language is perfectly set up for avoidance of responsibility. You don’t have to say “I broke it.” You can say “it broke.” No responsibility here.
During this winter’s snowmaggedon in DC, a local blogger complained about an incident with DC police. There was a very drunk man walking in the road and falling down. The blogger flagged down a cop. The cop did nothing. The blogger was upset that the cop wouldn’t even check to see if the guy was o.k.
Why didn’t the blogger just check to see if the guy was o.k.? Great to be a concerned citizen, but why does concern only go so far as to try and get someone else to do something about it?
We’ve all gotten so accustomed to thinking that someone else will handle things that we aren’t using our common sense or common decency. I understand the hesitancy. Changing means taking on responsibility. It means putting yourself at risk. It means learning how to deal with difficult people.
But the alternative is handing your power over to people who may or may not ever try to use it to help and will often use it to hurt. So how about a little less “they” and a little more “I” or , even better, “we?”



